I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how addicted most of us are to social media, as wonderful as it can be. This is for sure. You can have that instant connection across the globe. This I do love about it, but I hear a lot of people say that they feel inadequate and unworthy in their own lives because of it. So many people use it to brag or show off. Like they are living an amazing life. This could be true, but often when you peel the curtain back, you see that it’s just hype. For the sake of helping you to live your absolute BEST life now, I want to address some things that could hinder your personal growth or happiness.

Lesson One

Always speak with INTEGRITY. Say only what you mean, and mean what you say. Avoid speaking against yourself or gossiping about others. Both are too toxic. Use the power of your words to send truth and love into the world.

I’m sure that you’ve had encounters with people who irritate you, or there’s just something about them you don’t like. They rub you the wrong way. It can be hard not to be judgmental or critical of others when you feel this way. Stand back and try to recognize that it’s usually the qualities you dislike in yourself that others are mirroring back to you.  

Maybe you have a loud coworker who irritates you. Instead of complaining about it. Look at the situation with love. Perhaps the reason it bothers you so much is that you were scolded as a child for being loud. “Please use your indoor voice,” you heard from your parents. Suddenly, there’s something relatable between you. This makes it easier to send her love. You’ve not lowered your vibration with complaining, “Oh, this person is so loud all the time.”  Instead, you have raised it with the feeling of ONENESS.

This awareness can help you figure out where you’re lacking in your Personal Path Development. I have a program that you can use to further your Personal Path Development. This is my gift to you. Another upside to this is that when you’re attracted to the good qualities in someone. It’s another mirror! It means that you too have that quality in you. And the circle of LOVE continues. This is good news!

Speak only positive things about yourself and others, and that’s the reality you will create.

Lesson Two

Take nothing personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others. You won’t be the victim of needless suffering. Miguel Ruiz taught us this important and most valuable lesson.

It’s easy to let yourself feel inadequate sometimes. Especially when you’re scrolling through Facebook or Instagram. It may look like your friends, family, or even strangers are so much further ahead in life. Or having these amazing lives, and you’re here trekking through the mud of life, doing the heavy lifting. Keep in mind that people usually only post their highlight reels, not their struggles. Or their truth.

As you may already know, comparisons are the thief of all joy. You always come up short when you compare yourself to others. Maybe the problem is that you feel like your nose is constantly being rubbed in someone else’s achievements. “Look how great so and so is doing.” Know that it’s unlikely anyone is purposefully trying to make you feel miserable or unworthy.

If you find you’re comparing and despairing, then it’s time to get strict about who you spend time with and what you’re focusing your energy on. Get off the phone, shut off the computer, and go hang out in the community where you live – where life is real. Nature, too, is healing. The smells in the Forest, the trees, and the flowers can cleanse you. In Japan, where the stress levels are higher than the west. (Can you believe it?) They call it Forest Bathing. The Asians use the Forest to destress and heal. Getting out into nature can help you ground, and remind you what truly matters in your life. You are here to FEEL GOOD and wear a smile on your face.

Lesson Three

Don’t make assumptions. You know the old saying, “When you assume, you make an ass out of you and an ass out of me.” I know that sounds silly, but it has helped me to pump the brakes when I’ve felt triggered by something.  For example, don’t assume that someone is upset with you and then become impatient with them just because they’re quiet. It could be because they have a lot of work on their plate OR they are distracted by something going on inside of them. And your assumption could lead to an unnecessary argument.

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others clearly to avoid misunderstandings or drama. With just this one lesson, you can completely transform your life. The best way to WIN an argument is to avoid one.

Lesson Four

Always do your best. Your best will change from day to day. For me, it depends on how much sleep I’ve had. Situations change, and all you can do is take it one day at a time. There will always be challenges and fires to put out. My bank account was hacked into by thieves yesterday. They didn’t get away anything, but my stress levels hit the red zone, and now I am cleaning up the mess they made. This is a distraction from my real work. It’s okay if your BEST varies from day to day. The most important thing is to give life your best and let go of the rest. You can only control your best.

This message has been coming to me from Spirit like a broken record. Everything happens in divine and perfect timing. Your life, until now, has happened in its perfect timing. The decisions you’ve made led you to where you are now. Don’t live in fear or doubt because you are always divinely guided. You’re exactly where you need to be. The POWER within you is greater than any challenge that comes your way.

Even if your life isn’t exactly what you want it to be right now. Who the hell is? Keep the faith. Have peace and confidence your dreams will manifest in your divine timing. APPRECIATE who you are and what you have had to overcome to get here. Be appreciative for what you have today because everything you want or need is on the way. This is universal law.

You are who you are now because you’ve made the best choices and taken the best actions when you needed to and that’s all you can do. Hindsight is great. But you do the best you can with what you knew at the time. Waste no energy in regret. When YOU know better, YOU do better.

“Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will AVOID self-judgment and self-abuse.” — Miguel Ruiz

Be your own authority and trust your inner authority. No one knows what’s best for you better than you. I failed that lesson a few months ago. When I trusted someone else’ authority over my own. And it was a painful and costly lesson for me, but I learned NEVER to do that again. YAY!

I hope these lessons help you spend every day focusing on the positive and spreading LOVE everywhere you go. You are LOVED! You are here to feel good. And to feel good about YOU. Having fun? Take time to include fun in your day, every day. And if that means getting offline then so be it! But not until you’ve read my blog. 😊

with enormous love,

XO

Kelley

PS. Here’s that link again to the Personal Path Development Program