Keep your soul healthy in these strange times

Just like all of you, I’ve had a downpour of pandemic news. Stories about how many are infected. Stories about hoarding. Posts about grocery shortages. Depressing updates about the economy. Forget the coronavirus; I feel ill just wading through all of this horrible news. And I can’t find toilet paper… What’s the deal? Americans hear the bad news and one of our biggest concerns is how am I going to wipe my behind? Okay, I get it. Do what makes you feel safe. But we are all in this together. And hoarding is fear. I am not saying not to stock up on supplies. Not at all. I am just saying, consider the next person coming into the shop. They too need to have staples on hand. We are stronger together. I have always believed that your wealth is in your health. The better you feel, life too is better.

My health has always been a huge priority for me.  It’s important that you take good care of yourself. You have a destiny. And we’ll overcome this crisis and be stronger for it. Now, there are some basics that we need to apply. And I, too, have to remind myself of these things. Coming back from the store I touched my face. I had an itch. And then I realized, “AHH, I TOUCHED MY FACE.” This is a big no-no. “What are doing, Kelley? AH!” And I was unpleasantly reminded to give everyone their space. 

I am really good at spacing out when I am waiting in long lines. There was a woman in the grocery store a few days ago standing in front of me.  And she freaked out, while dozens of people watched. STAND BACK YOU’RE GETTING IN MY SPACE. She screamed at me. Now, I didn’t want to go at it with her. Because when people are scared, they overreact. You never want to hit anyone back with the same fear or anger they broadcast at you. This would only escalate the conflict. Never mind that the guy behind me was not three or six-feet apart from me. But he did back up the minute the woman freaked out at me. And so did the entire line behind me. This was a valuable lesson, and painful for an empath. 

There is good advice right now for all of us. Social distance and handwashing will help lower your chance of catching the virus. We’ve all heard this from a thousand different sources. Twenty seconds under the hot soapy water is a good practice. I have been wearing gloves when I go into stores. And, I try not to touch surfaces. Instead, I will use my sleeve.

Here’s what I want to share, though. I want you to keep your soul healthy in these strange times. In addition to keeping your physical health, it’s important to stay mentally healthy. Getting plenty of rest is essential for your mental state. Eating healthy too will help. 

Make sure you also take time out to relax. Read a good book. Go for a walk in the park. Do yoga. Take a hot bath. Do the things that make YOU feel good. Do the things that make you forget the news! And get out in the fresh air and sunshine for that good Vitamin D. It’s free! And so are the birds singing. 

Now more than ever, it’s essential to practice mindfulness. And to observe the energy around you. Be the observer. The POWER is always with the one who acts. And never with the one who reacts.  Energy can come from the people around you. The news, social media – just about anywhere. Energy does not respect walls or distance. It will travel in a second and get into your head. We want to stay out of fear. 

I am working on practicing mindfulness. Being mindful when I am in public. I have a secret prayer that I use. Given to me by the Ascended Masters. I find that prayer spoken aloud is far more powerful than saying it in my mind. Try it on and see how it feels out in public.

 

 

“In the name of my Mighty, I Am Presence and Holy Christ Self. I call to Beloved Lanello and K-17 for my cloak of invincibility, invulnerability, and invisibility.”  

 

 

There are plenty of things we can’t control. We can’t control the virus itself. We can’t control business and schools closing. If your job is furloughed, you can’t control that. Don’t dwell on what you can’t change. The good news is…

There are things you CAN control. You want to FOCUS your energy and power there.

You can control who you let affect you. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. If someone brings you negative energy regularly, limit the impact they have on you. You don’t need these people in your life. Spend time with your pets and nature. This will feed your soul.

Mentally distance yourself from someone else’s negativity. I promise it is possible. Love yourself more than the need to keep anyone in your life who is taking you down.

I have a very negative uncle. Because that is how his brain is hard-wired. Even during significant milestones and celebrations. He’ll find something to complain about. Graduation in the family? “Well, that’ll be one big mess to clean up after the party.” Buy a new house? “Looks like you’ll need a new roof soon.” He’s a real downer. You get the picture.

Dealing with him gets old. Every time he’s around, I remember that his negativity does not affect me, and I am not here to change him. I don’t resist who he is. I ignore him. That seems to work well for me. The next time you’re around someone like this remember: Another person’s negativity is NOT your reality. You’ll want to repeat this regularly. 

You can also control your news intake. Stop checking Facebook every 20 minutes. There’s no need to leave the news playing in the background. Choose 2-3 times per day you will check-in. Stick to it. Your world will not fall apart if you don’t find out about the latest closure within minutes. 

It’s quite the opposite. You’ll feel much LESS stress. Limit the COVID-19 updates, economy soundbites, and grocery shortage posts. Constant updates feed anxiety and fear. Limit negativity – from all sources. 

Feed your soul with goodness, positivity, and nourishment. If there is too much negativity and noise, your soul won’t be able to find the light. And the goal is to stay in the light and higher vibration.

 

 

“I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth diminishing your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear.”

     – Steve Maraboli, Writer and Behavioral Scientist  

 

There is more good news. The Sun soars into Aries tonight at 8:50 PDT and we move into Spring in the Northern Hemisphere. YAY!  These are strange times we are experiencing. My latest upload of the April videos was recorded and published before we got quarantined in the states. Some of the advice doesn’t work. I will chat about it when I do the May astrology horoscopes. It’s important to be calm. Keep out of fear. Give space to people when in public. 😉

Get out in the fresh air. Walk, bike, and run, etc. This feeds your soul and self-esteem. There is financial support coming from the government. Also, Facebook is giving out grants to small business owners around the world. That you can apply for a grant right now if you have been in business for at least a year.  Click here to view the details.

Keep cool and carry on. We will get through this and the economy will come roaring back.  We all need to slow down and rest. And now that I am rested. I have to go hunt down extra soft and quilted toilet paper. 😉

Take good care of yourself! Be Safe.

Huge Love and Peace,

Kelley

P.S.

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Who rules your second house of money?

Did you ever wonder how Beyoncé and Oprah run empires with the same 24 hours a day that we all have? Sure, they have plenty of hired help. At the end of the day, though, they sink or swim based on their own mindset, motivation, and business savvy. No one you ever hire will be 100% focused on you. 

I remind myself of this all the time. No matter how much support from loved ones I have, I run my own business. And no matter how much help I may hire, success is still up to me. And your success is up to YOU! You can either have excuses or results. But you can’t have both. Distractions too are the death of success.

And here’s the thing: Once you find your PASSION, it’s not about work anymore. It’s about the JOY of doing what you love. Not that I love everything that I do every day, because I don’t. It’s that my passion gives me my Purpose to get out of bed in the morning and keep going through the fear and chaos of these turbulent times.  

I do love teaching. And this too was confirmed for me in my Personalized Money Report. I have talked about this with you in the past. I also have Virgo ruling on the second house. Mercury is the ruler of Virgo. Your second house rules your personal income. And what you love and value. How to maximize your resources for your greatest success. 

My Money Report suggests that I can be financially influential with my personality. For instance, this might suggest success through sales, marketing or other mercurial occupations, i.e. writing, speaking, and lecturing. I do enjoy all of these activities. And they’ve helped me be successful throughout my life. Who rules your second house of money?

I too notice the cyclical effect of Mercury retrograde in my business. And I am thrilled that Mercury who rules commerce and the marketplace is now direct! This is good news. YAY!

I am incredibly grateful to those that have trusted me over the years. While they learned from me. I too have learned from them. I’ve acquired new skills, but most of all. I’ve learned how and where I can best help.  

Between YouTube and the Academy, I get asked a lot about how I manage so many different projects. Here’s my best advice:  

 

PLAN

Spend at least 10% of your time planning. Figure out what needs to get done. Write everything down, from the biggest tasks to the smallest.

 

PRIORITIZE  

In order to be effective, you want to work SMART. 

Not sure how to prioritize? First, review the list of tasks that you’ve created. 

Next, weed out the secondary tasks. These are the things that you can’t do just yet. For example, there’s no need to put a mailing list sign up on your website until you have a lead magnet to give away. Which means you give a gift for signing up. And you want to make sure that you tell people what that gift is; because we love getting free stuff. It makes us feel special to get gifts. Its human nature.

And, there’s no sense working on social media posts until you’ve set up your accounts. Customers need to have a place to land. And this will prove that you are ready to RECEIVE the abundance the universe wants to send to you. 

Once you’ve narrowed down your list to your primary tasks – the things you CAN do right now – then plan out what will give you the most impact. Here’s one example: researching to find a business niche will go farther than creating a hundred products to see what works. And a mailing list can be way more powerful than posting on Facebook every day.  

If you’re still stuck, remember this: there is no right or wrong answer. If you aren’t certain where to focus your time, pick a task, and work on it. It’s better to move forward doing something than sit still and do nothing. Action speaks louder than struggling and helps to move the energy forward.

SCHEDULE 

Once you’ve got your list of priority tasks, schedule them on your calendar. Even if you only have one hour a week, or 10 minutes here and there, schedule them in. Then, stick to your schedule.  

You’ll want to review your schedule every morning. Make sure you’re prepared to work when you can. That might mean taking your laptop, journal, or other work items with you first thing in the morning.  

And don’t forget to be smart about your schedule. Have an extra hour while the kids are at practice? Use that time and get some work done. Waiting at the doctor’s office? Work on the engagement for your social media or responding to your YouTube comments. 

 

BE ACCOUNTABLE 

Make sure that you continue the process. Spend time planning every week. Did you get everything done you wanted to? If not, why not? Make a note of your challenges and what you can do to tackle them. Do you need to add new tasks to your priority list? Do you need to reschedule something from last week?  

Remember, only YOU can hold yourself accountable for your dreams. If you truly want something, you CAN achieve it. The only thing holding you back is you.

   

“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination, and hard work.” 

 –Colin Powell 

 

CELEBRATE 

Lastly, and this is a big one. Make sure to REWARD yourself for finishing your tasks. It’s important not to just jump to the next thing. Instead, take a moment and celebrate your accomplishments. Celebrate your hard work. Celebrate the small wins and the lessons. Reward yourself for doing the work. It can be for five fun minutes. Put your favorite song on and dance. Small moments can do BIG things for you.  There are up and down days. Life is no rose garden. And remember that a job well done is its own reward in personal satisfaction. It keeps a smile on your face. And what success means for me. What makes you feel successful? Feedback on the blog we would love to hear from you.

To your greatest success!  

Love and Abundance, 

Kelley

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P.S.

The Personalized Money Report is a fantastic tool to help you understand your relationship with money. And, how you can maximize your natal birth chart to build abundance! 

We all have blind spots…

Sometimes even what’s right in front of us can be so hard to see. Last week I was talking with a friend. I was asking for advice on how to deal with a family situation. I had been worrying and upset about it for weeks. I spent about twenty minutes getting all my frustrations out while my friend listened patiently. When I finally stopped venting, she looked at me dead in the eyes and said, “Did you tell them how you feel?” 

At that moment, I felt mad, silly, and relieved all at once. I had been stewing over this issue for so long! I was angry that my friend thought my problem was so easy to fix. In my head, I had built the issue up to be this giant beast. Surely, I didn’t waste all this time worrying over something so easily fixed, right? 

After I calmed down for a minute, I also felt silly that I didn’t see the solution myself. Once I thought about it, I saw that it did boil down to nothing more than a communication issue. And, of course, I was relieved that there actually might be a solution at hand.   

The truth is we all have blind spots. I don’t mean your eyeballs. I’m talking about how we may be sabotaging ourselves and not know that we are doing it. For me it came down to a simple conversation with a trusted friend. That my lesson, I have been repeating is that the people in my life are not mind readers. And if I don’t teach them how to treat me, that is to ask for what I need, they’re not the problem I AM!

In my last blog, I talked about being true to yourself in relationships. It’s essential to discover who you are before you can be someone else’s “better half.” 

Once you can fully embrace yourself – flaws and all – you can truly begin to build healthy relationships. Whether you ordered one of my relationship reports, or just sat down to do some personal reflection. I hope that you spent some time getting to know yourself.  

Bring awareness to how you react in certain situations. Start to take note of what you like and dislike from your partner. What positive and negative vibes do you bring into a relationship?   

This self-knowledge brings me to my next lesson – a lesson I was just recently reminded about. SHOW people how to best care for you.

No one is a mind reader. Not your significant other, not your kids, not your parents, not your friends. 

From now on…

  • If you need something, communicate it. 
  • If you don’t like something, don’t accept it. 
  • If you’re not feeling true to yourself, you need to stand up for yourself and let others know. 

If you don’t stand up for yourself and speak your truth, no one else will. 

If you’re stuck in a relationship feeling like you deserve more, stop accepting less. It’s that simple. 

People are lazy. I don’t say this to sound harsh, but it’s mostly true. People will give what is expected of them, in jobs and in relationships. If you’ve set the expectation that something is acceptable, then that’s usually what you’ll get. 

So, here’s how you change: speak your mind. 

If you were hoping for dinner and a movie on Valentine’s Day but didn’t even get a card, SAY SOMETHING. It doesn’t have to be a fight, but make it clear that next year, you expect more. Or set a date for a do-over this year and tell your partner what’s expected. 

There is so much anguish and unhappiness that could be fixed by clear communication. 

Some of you may already live this way, and I applaud you. Yay you! Keep up the great work. 

But for those of you that don’t, practice makes progress. It might be second nature just to accept what comes your way. Start by reflecting at the end of each day. Was there any time during the day that you accepted less? If the answer is yes, either fix it tomorrow by communicating your needs, or make a mental note to challenge it the next time it happens. You‘ll be surprised how good it feels to speak up for yourself. 

You’re here to FEEL GOOD. I’m spiritual, but I am not a saint. I’m a woman in a woman’s body, and I have needs. And I am now ready to tell everyone in my life what they are… For the menfolk, you too have needs. Speak your truth. Ask for what you need. You’ll FEEL BETTER.

The more you know about yourself, the more you can share your BEST self with the world. And heal those blind spots. The more awareness you bring to your boundaries, the more you will hold them. The more you hold your boundaries, the happier you will be! Because you owe it to yourself. Love you more than the need for a relationship. Love you more than the need to keep the peace at a price that’s costing you more than what’s it worth. Love you more so that you are building your self-esteem. Take good care of you. Always settle for MORE! Be true to who you are. Because love is not enough. If that love isn’t loving you.

Cheers to LOVING YOU!

Love,

Kelley

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Love is written in the stars

It’s annoying how Valentine’s Day has been so commercialized. You can lose sight of the value of pure and simple Love. And in truth, the biggest relationship you have in life is with yourself. Be your own soul mate. Be your own best friend. Love you for the precious soul that you are. That’s how Creator sees you. And, so that you can RECEIVE that Love from others.

I always loved Valentine’s Day in elementary school because you gave a Valentine to EVERYONE in the class. No one was left out. Yes, it’s beautiful to celebrate your Love with that special person in your life. But I think February is an opportunity to express Love for everyone. What the world needs now is love sweet love. Who was this Saint Valentine that started all of this? 

“He was the patron saint of lovers, epileptics, and beekeepers. By some accounts, St. Valentine was a Roman priest and physician. Valentine’s Day as a lovers’ festival dates at least from the 14th century.” –Wikipedia

Valentine’s Day has been going on for over 600 years. Now that’s a fun fact. Wow! February is the opportune time to reflect on relationships. And you may find yourself doing that whether you’re in a relationship or not. We can all agree that it’s always helpful to learn and grow as a person. Because others are your mirror. You, too, learn from others. People mirror back parts of self you may not be consciously aware of. Others bring light to the best parts of you. And the parts of self that need healing or improvement. The more work you do on yourself, the BETTER partner you can be. This will benefit current or future significant others and friends, colleagues, and family. 

I’m still learning and growing myself. But I’ve learned a few things about myself recently and how I deal with relationships. 

I can very quickly feel suffocated in relationships. I feel more and more suffocated until I lash out in frustration. This only leads to hurting my partner’s feelings. You can imagine how that goes over when they’re just trying to love me and spend time with me, right?! It’s a PATTERN I’ve lived with my whole life. I long for relationships, but simultaneously feel frustrated in them! It’s the come close to me so I can push you away. Don’t get in my space. And then when I have too much space. I miss him.    

We all have our patterns in relationships. The trick is to understand them and start working WITH them and not AGAINST them.  

I created the Kindred Spirits report to help myself work through relationship patterns. I want to share it with you. This report helps you UNDERSTAND how your unique astrology affects your relationships. This includes your wants, your needs, and your desires.

For instance, I’ve learned through my report that I require independence to be happy. BINGO! I’ve had so much conflict in my past because of my fierce independence. I now know this is part of who I am. Now I can build strategies to work with it. Because it’s who I am. And resisting it doesn’t work for me. 

I’ve learned to build in my own personal time before I burst. My me time is a NEED not a want. I can also communicate with my partner about my expectations. That’s all it takes. No more building up frustrations and hurting feelings. I’ve learned that you have to teach people how to treat you. Just because someone loves you doesn’t mean they know what you want or need. They’re not mind readers. We, too, can say this about our children and friends. Let others know what you need to be happy. 

Here’s what else I’ve learned: my Third House Cusp is in Virgo. Because I expect so much of myself, I expect a high degree of PERFECTION in my partner. I always have and now I know why. I can easily get frustrated over the little things. Like I am not supposed to make mistakes. I’m supposed to be perfect. Yet, I don’t know anyone who is perfect because we are human beings. And you have blinds spots. You can’t see the nose on your face. But everyone else can see it. That’s why you need to love yourself MORE than the need to be perfect and keep a healthy sense of humor because life is too short to sweat the small stuff. 

Through the Kindred Spirits report, I understand my shortcomings. It’s my desire for perfection. Every time something little isn’t up to my standards. I take a step back. I ask myself: is it really important? Or is it my need for control? And my insatiable appetite for perfection. Will this matter to me in six-months from now? If not, then it doesn’t really matter. See where I am going with this? 

These are just two examples of what I learned. I learned so much. But, if you can learn just one thing from your Kindred Spirits Report. I guarantee your relationships will be better off because self-knowledge is POWER. The more you understand yourself and what you need to be happy. The more available you will be for the people in your life. This is good news. 

If you’re looking for more insight, I also offer the Synastry Report that will compare your chart with your partner’s. You will learn how both of your charts work together. You’ll see where your charts may clash. And, it will tell you where you may find potential conflict. It’s another way of understanding your relationship astrology because LOVE is written in the stars. 

I want to empower you to build the best relationships possible. And it all starts with LOVING you. 

My gifts to achieve the relationships you deserve are the Kindred Spirits report and the Synastry report. I’ve even created a Relationship Bundle to save $5.00 when you order both reports. 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Love,

Kelley
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How to find your unique life purpose

I reconnected with an old friend recently. Someone that I hadn’t seen since high school. We were very close in high school even though we were exact opposites. She had her whole life planned out. What university she would go to, what career she would have. How she’d work her way up the ladder to eventually open her own business. She even knew she’d have two dogs, no kids, and a BMW. It was astounding to me because, other than college. I had no idea where I’d go or what I’d do with my life. 

So, when we ran into each other recently and caught up. It was so inspiring. Of course, it was great to see an old friend. But I was even more amazed when she told me all about her life – her small accounting firm. Her two dogs, amazing husband, no kids, and her even BMW. She hadn’t changed her plan at all. And why should she? She knew EXACTLY what she wanted in life, and she went for it. I was so happy for her!

Everyone has a unique purpose in life. Some find their purpose while they’re young and still in school. Others don’t see their purpose in life until they’re in their seventies. 

Where are you on this journey? Do you know what you were born to do? Or, are you still floating through life, trying to find your calling?

I hear all the time from people that are not happy with their lives. Some hate their jobs. Some are sad that they’re still single. Others are in unhappy relationships. 

I always tell them the same thing. It might not be easy to hear. But I don’t sugarcoat the truth. That doesn’t help anyone.

If you’re not happy: Change. If you don’t want to change, figure out how to be satisfied. 

You know that phrase “same old thinking, same old results.” Well, there you go. 

If you don’t like your job, take action! Action speaks louder than suffering. Feel like you’re just moving from one job to another while not being happy in any of them? Or, you’re stuck in the same place for years bored out of your mind? 

Here’s what I want you to do. For the next week, make two lists. On one list, write down every task that you procrastinate doing. On the second list, write down everything that you like doing throughout the week. 

At the end of the week, review your lists. You now know your likes and dislikes. Rewrite your resume, so everyone knows what you’re an all-star at and start sending it out.

Your next task is to look for a job or opportunity that optimizes what makes you happy. Maybe you’ll find it’s a step down the ladder. That’s OK. Or, perhaps you’ll find you need to focus on your own business? Or find a volunteer opportunity a few hours a week to explore different avenues and build skills.

Make 2020 the year that you’ll be proud of yourself for all of your accomplishments!  Because you took action. You are here to live an extraordinary life. It’s YOUR LIFE and no one else’s. Claim it! And if you don’t feel like your living your life purpose. Please go find it!

To your success!

Love, 

Kelley

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PS
The Modern Natal Birth Report is useful in finding your unique life purpose based on your natal birth chart. It looks into your motivation, career ambitions and your creativity and originality. All important ingredients that make you uniquely you. 💖