Four lessons for happiness that will make you smile

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how addicted most of us are to social media, as wonderful as it can be. This is for sure. You can have that instant connection across the globe. This I do love about it, but I hear a lot of people say that they feel inadequate and unworthy in their own lives because of it. So many people use it to brag or show off. Like they are living an amazing life. This could be true, but often when you peel the curtain back, you see that it’s just hype. For the sake of helping you to live your absolute BEST life now, I want to address some things that could hinder your personal growth or happiness.

Lesson One

Always speak with INTEGRITY. Say only what you mean, and mean what you say. Avoid speaking against yourself or gossiping about others. Both are too toxic. Use the power of your words to send truth and love into the world.

I’m sure that you’ve had encounters with people who irritate you, or there’s just something about them you don’t like. They rub you the wrong way. It can be hard not to be judgmental or critical of others when you feel this way. Stand back and try to recognize that it’s usually the qualities you dislike in yourself that others are mirroring back to you.  

Maybe you have a loud coworker who irritates you. Instead of complaining about it. Look at the situation with love. Perhaps the reason it bothers you so much is that you were scolded as a child for being loud. “Please use your indoor voice,” you heard from your parents. Suddenly, there’s something relatable between you. This makes it easier to send her love. You’ve not lowered your vibration with complaining, “Oh, this person is so loud all the time.”  Instead, you have raised it with the feeling of ONENESS.

This awareness can help you figure out where you’re lacking in your Personal Path Development. I have a program that you can use to further your Personal Path Development. This is my gift to you. Another upside to this is that when you’re attracted to the good qualities in someone. It’s another mirror! It means that you too have that quality in you. And the circle of LOVE continues. This is good news!

Speak only positive things about yourself and others, and that’s the reality you will create.

Lesson Two

Take nothing personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others. You won’t be the victim of needless suffering. Miguel Ruiz taught us this important and most valuable lesson.

It’s easy to let yourself feel inadequate sometimes. Especially when you’re scrolling through Facebook or Instagram. It may look like your friends, family, or even strangers are so much further ahead in life. Or having these amazing lives, and you’re here trekking through the mud of life, doing the heavy lifting. Keep in mind that people usually only post their highlight reels, not their struggles. Or their truth.

As you may already know, comparisons are the thief of all joy. You always come up short when you compare yourself to others. Maybe the problem is that you feel like your nose is constantly being rubbed in someone else’s achievements. “Look how great so and so is doing.” Know that it’s unlikely anyone is purposefully trying to make you feel miserable or unworthy.

If you find you’re comparing and despairing, then it’s time to get strict about who you spend time with and what you’re focusing your energy on. Get off the phone, shut off the computer, and go hang out in the community where you live – where life is real. Nature, too, is healing. The smells in the Forest, the trees, and the flowers can cleanse you. In Japan, where the stress levels are higher than the west. (Can you believe it?) They call it Forest Bathing. The Asians use the Forest to destress and heal. Getting out into nature can help you ground, and remind you what truly matters in your life. You are here to FEEL GOOD and wear a smile on your face.

Lesson Three

Don’t make assumptions. You know the old saying, “When you assume, you make an ass out of you and an ass out of me.” I know that sounds silly, but it has helped me to pump the brakes when I’ve felt triggered by something.  For example, don’t assume that someone is upset with you and then become impatient with them just because they’re quiet. It could be because they have a lot of work on their plate OR they are distracted by something going on inside of them. And your assumption could lead to an unnecessary argument.

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others clearly to avoid misunderstandings or drama. With just this one lesson, you can completely transform your life. The best way to WIN an argument is to avoid one.

Lesson Four

Always do your best. Your best will change from day to day. For me, it depends on how much sleep I’ve had. Situations change, and all you can do is take it one day at a time. There will always be challenges and fires to put out. My bank account was hacked into by thieves yesterday. They didn’t get away anything, but my stress levels hit the red zone, and now I am cleaning up the mess they made. This is a distraction from my real work. It’s okay if your BEST varies from day to day. The most important thing is to give life your best and let go of the rest. You can only control your best.

This message has been coming to me from Spirit like a broken record. Everything happens in divine and perfect timing. Your life, until now, has happened in its perfect timing. The decisions you’ve made led you to where you are now. Don’t live in fear or doubt because you are always divinely guided. You’re exactly where you need to be. The POWER within you is greater than any challenge that comes your way.

Even if your life isn’t exactly what you want it to be right now. Who the hell is? Keep the faith. Have peace and confidence your dreams will manifest in your divine timing. APPRECIATE who you are and what you have had to overcome to get here. Be appreciative for what you have today because everything you want or need is on the way. This is universal law.

You are who you are now because you’ve made the best choices and taken the best actions when you needed to and that’s all you can do. Hindsight is great. But you do the best you can with what you knew at the time. Waste no energy in regret. When YOU know better, YOU do better.

“Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will AVOID self-judgment and self-abuse.” — Miguel Ruiz

Be your own authority and trust your inner authority. No one knows what’s best for you better than you. I failed that lesson a few months ago. When I trusted someone else’ authority over my own. And it was a painful and costly lesson for me, but I learned NEVER to do that again. YAY!

I hope these lessons help you spend every day focusing on the positive and spreading LOVE everywhere you go. You are LOVED! You are here to feel good. And to feel good about YOU. Having fun? Take time to include fun in your day, every day. And if that means getting offline then so be it! But not until you’ve read my blog. 😊

with enormous love,

XO

Kelley

PS. Here’s that link again to the Personal Path Development Program

So, what are you really tolerating?

Wouldn’t it be great if every person on the planet was kind, loving, and supportive in the ways you want them to be? Unfortunately, it’s just not that simple. At some point, you’ll deal with people that you just don’t vibe with. What’s even worse is that you might stay in an unhealthy relationship because of guilt or obligation.

I’m sure you can think of someone you cringe at the thought of interacting with. It might be a brief encounter with a crabby barista on your morning coffee run.  It might be an ongoing downpour from a childhood friend. Either way, the uneasy feeling that wells up inside you is your spirit telling you to beware! The relationship is unhealthy. That person is draining you of good energy. Sometimes you don’t even know what you are tolerating. You just don’t feel good. Use this tolerations cheat sheet to get to the heart of the matter.

Devoting time and energy to people or situations that make you feel bad is not only uncomfortable, but it can be harmful. It can hurt your self-esteem, rob you of motivation, or even make you feel sick, fatigued or depressed. When you’re experiencing unhappy situations, the vibration of your energy is low. A low vibration attracts more unhappy conditions as well as more reasons to be stressed and anxious.

If you want to enrich your life and be the happiest, most successful version of yourself you can be – upgrade your friends! Think of it this way; if you were a first-time home buyer, would you take advice about the housing market from someone who’s never bought a house before? It doesn’t make much sense, does it? Likewise, if you’re an optimistic person focused on growth, how can you expect to receive loving support from someone who is close-minded, unwilling to grow, or just plain negative? Give up magical thinking that you can change people. Yes, in certain situations you have to work with difficult people. Here are the ten steps for dealing with difficult people cheat sheet.

Hang out with people who are positive, supportive, and successful. Be with people who are financially empowered. Observe them, learn from them. If you want what they have, do what they do! When you’re feeling good and surrounded by like-minded people, you’re in a higher vibration. This is the fastest way to attract more positive circumstances and manifest your dream life.

Cutting ties is never easy, but it will open new doors for you. Being happy and experiencing abundance is your birthright. Use your time and energy wisely! Be your own best friend. Love is waiting for you on the other side.

Always Love,

Xx

Kelley

Get your dance on and Happy Halloween!

You Can’t Pour from an Empty Cup

Many people, women, in particular, put their needs second to the needs of others. This is largely due to our natural maternal instincts whether or not we have children. We’re typically more emotional when it comes to our relationships with friends and family. We dote on our pets. And sometimes we practically smother our children. This is often referred to as helicopter parenting.  It’s also due to gender roles that were established thousands of years ago. Women cared for others and ran the household. With others’ needs above their own and still do. This can make you feel batshit crazy. Always striving to meet the needs of others with your needs coming in at a close second or third. 

The love you give is wonderful. Yay you, for having a big heart.

The world needs big-hearted people. But you want to remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup. Loving and nurturing yourself is just as important as the love you give to others. I think this is what Venus retrograde is trying to teach us right now. Step back and meet your own needs first. Love and nurture you. Treat you as the precious soul you truly are. We need you bright and shiny. Shinning your light into the world. So that others can find their way. What would you do if you were Needless?

What you offer the world as your authentic self is how you step into your spiritual power. This is true whether you are an artist, chef or writer. Maybe you’re a creator or a builder. This includes accountants or anything else you can imagine. You’re here to do something only you can do. When you follow your dreams and live with joy, you have way more to give. That’s good news. 

The greatest gift you can contribute to the world is your true gift of self.

But in order to nurture your dreams and goals. You want to set proper boundaries. By putting yourself second to the needs or wants of others.  You do a huge disservice to yourself as well as everyone else. This truly is the cart before the horse. How can you fully love and nurture others? When you ignore your own truths and push our own needs aside? This is a neglect of your own spiritual growth. The whole reason you were born was to expand and grow. You’re not here to shrink or hide. You’re not a human trying to have a spiritual experience. You’re in truth a great spiritual being having a human experience. Let’s say it loud and proud. You’re Great! 

In the words of Dr. Wayne Dyer, “Any time you start a sentence with the words ‘I am,’ you are creating what you are and what you want to be.” This is why it’s crucial for you to follow your heart.  Speak your truth. And listen to your gut. Your instincts and your heart’s desires are speaking to you all the time. Guiding you to be the most loving, giving, happiest version of your true being.

When you own who you are, unapologetically. following your spirit’s inner guiding voice. You step into your true power. And that’s when the real magic happens. 

 

with enormous love,

XO

Kelley 

P.S.

It is possible to have all of your needs permanently met? Now, that might make your life just a bit too effortless, but we hear that people find some rewarding ways to fill the time that is freed up when you are not chasing your needs.

Here is the link to the Needless Program.  Enjoy!

Plus, here is the link to the Needs List. This can help you get clear with what needs to work on.

 

Is there a science to building wealth?

We all want to build wealth, right?  I mean no one wants to financially struggle. Yet, the road to abundance if filled with money blocks. What is a money block you may ask? Anything that is in the way to your wealth. Women are so good at nurturing other people. But, they have not learned how to build things. How to build a business without massive burnout. I am guilty as charged. This is why I have given up on balance.  My intention is to feel strong in my body. And to work while I have the energy. I do not push myself.

However, I am building two businesses right now. This takes up the majority of my time. My students are entrepreneurs. So, I hear the same struggles from them. My business is growing. I love what I do but I never have time for myself. I do recommend the Extreme Self-Care Program.  This is my gift to you. I am going to build a new Self-Care Course this fall. Because there is such a demand for busy and overwhelmed people. Your wealth is in your health. And if your health is not good, that is a money block to your abundance. And if you are too busy nurturing others this will cost your health. And be a block to building wealth.

This is why my focus is on building now is Building yourself. Building your abundance. Building your business. Building relationships. Building community. The community is so important for women. We need to share our experiences with each other. And have each other’s back. Do not get me wrong. I love men. I have no intention of excluding men. In fact, in my first course that finished in August. There were men in the course. However, men are fantastic at building. And what they are learning now is to be the nurturer. Women are experts at that and what women need to learn is how to build.  But most of us might have probably already come to find that it’s definitely not easy. We are the best at getting in our own way when it comes to progressing financially and spiritually. Once you understand that these two aspects of your life are very closely related. This will help get you to where we want to be in life. You can work toward best managing them. The formula for building wealth all boils down to one thing:

Make each and every day of your life an efficient and effective one.

It honestly does not matter if you’re are making a sandwich or building an empire. As long as what you are doing is efficient. Then you will be effective. It’s the only way to progress and build the wealth you want in your life. But how do you make each day efficient and effective? How do you make sure you aren’t wasting time or focusing on the wrong thing?

Here are three ways to help you move forward:

1. Learn from your mistakes and don’t repeat them.

You have to learn from your mistakes. And not continue to make the same ones over and over again. Identify the issue when it happens.  And do what you need to do to ensure it doesn’t happen again. As Albert Einstein exclaimed, “The very definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different outcome.”

2. Know your goals and stick to the tasks that will get you there.

There’s a lot going on in the world we live in. These times are anything but simple. This is why it’s important you know exactly what you want out of life. And stick to your plan on reaching those goals. If you have a game plan and focus on it.  You’ll know that you’re working on the right thing and spending your time wisely.

3. Celebrate your work. Celebrate the effort.

If you don’t celebrate when you win, what’s the point of winning?

And, so many of us work on projects for a long time before we get to an outcome. I want for you to celebrate the work you are doing today. Celebrate the effort you put into your work. Celebrate yourself when you progress toward your goals. YAY, You! When you train yourself that doing good work feels good.  You are more likely to continue doing good! Reward yourself for your hard work and pleasant outcomes. Here is a great report that can help you better understand your path to build wealth. Get Your Money Report.

Say these healing mantras aloud and daily.

  • It is safe for me to be healthy.
  • It is safe for me to be successful.
  • It is safe for me to build wealth.
  • It is safe for me to have what I want.
  • It is safe for me to heal my money blocks.