We all have blind spots…

Sometimes even what’s right in front of us can be so hard to see. Last week I was talking with a friend. I was asking for advice on how to deal with a family situation. I had been worrying and upset about it for weeks. I spent about twenty minutes getting all my frustrations out while my friend listened patiently. When I finally stopped venting, she looked at me dead in the eyes and said, “Did you tell them how you feel?” 

At that moment, I felt mad, silly, and relieved all at once. I had been stewing over this issue for so long! I was angry that my friend thought my problem was so easy to fix. In my head, I had built the issue up to be this giant beast. Surely, I didn’t waste all this time worrying over something so easily fixed, right? 

After I calmed down for a minute, I also felt silly that I didn’t see the solution myself. Once I thought about it, I saw that it did boil down to nothing more than a communication issue. And, of course, I was relieved that there actually might be a solution at hand.   

The truth is we all have blind spots. I don’t mean your eyeballs. I’m talking about how we may be sabotaging ourselves and not know that we are doing it. For me it came down to a simple conversation with a trusted friend. That my lesson, I have been repeating is that the people in my life are not mind readers. And if I don’t teach them how to treat me, that is to ask for what I need, they’re not the problem I AM!

In my last blog, I talked about being true to yourself in relationships. It’s essential to discover who you are before you can be someone else’s “better half.” 

Once you can fully embrace yourself – flaws and all – you can truly begin to build healthy relationships. Whether you ordered one of my relationship reports, or just sat down to do some personal reflection. I hope that you spent some time getting to know yourself.  

Bring awareness to how you react in certain situations. Start to take note of what you like and dislike from your partner. What positive and negative vibes do you bring into a relationship?   

This self-knowledge brings me to my next lesson – a lesson I was just recently reminded about. SHOW people how to best care for you.

No one is a mind reader. Not your significant other, not your kids, not your parents, not your friends. 

From now on…

  • If you need something, communicate it. 
  • If you don’t like something, don’t accept it. 
  • If you’re not feeling true to yourself, you need to stand up for yourself and let others know. 

If you don’t stand up for yourself and speak your truth, no one else will. 

If you’re stuck in a relationship feeling like you deserve more, stop accepting less. It’s that simple. 

People are lazy. I don’t say this to sound harsh, but it’s mostly true. People will give what is expected of them, in jobs and in relationships. If you’ve set the expectation that something is acceptable, then that’s usually what you’ll get. 

So, here’s how you change: speak your mind. 

If you were hoping for dinner and a movie on Valentine’s Day but didn’t even get a card, SAY SOMETHING. It doesn’t have to be a fight, but make it clear that next year, you expect more. Or set a date for a do-over this year and tell your partner what’s expected. 

There is so much anguish and unhappiness that could be fixed by clear communication. 

Some of you may already live this way, and I applaud you. Yay you! Keep up the great work. 

But for those of you that don’t, practice makes progress. It might be second nature just to accept what comes your way. Start by reflecting at the end of each day. Was there any time during the day that you accepted less? If the answer is yes, either fix it tomorrow by communicating your needs, or make a mental note to challenge it the next time it happens. You‘ll be surprised how good it feels to speak up for yourself. 

You’re here to FEEL GOOD. I’m spiritual, but I am not a saint. I’m a woman in a woman’s body, and I have needs. And I am now ready to tell everyone in my life what they are… For the menfolk, you too have needs. Speak your truth. Ask for what you need. You’ll FEEL BETTER.

The more you know about yourself, the more you can share your BEST self with the world. And heal those blind spots. The more awareness you bring to your boundaries, the more you will hold them. The more you hold your boundaries, the happier you will be! Because you owe it to yourself. Love you more than the need for a relationship. Love you more than the need to keep the peace at a price that’s costing you more than what’s it worth. Love you more so that you are building your self-esteem. Take good care of you. Always settle for MORE! Be true to who you are. Because love is not enough. If that love isn’t loving you.

Cheers to LOVING YOU!

Love,

Kelley

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Love is written in the stars

It’s annoying how Valentine’s Day has been so commercialized. You can lose sight of the value of pure and simple Love. And in truth, the biggest relationship you have in life is with yourself. Be your own soul mate. Be your own best friend. Love you for the precious soul that you are. That’s how Creator sees you. And, so that you can RECEIVE that Love from others.

I always loved Valentine’s Day in elementary school because you gave a Valentine to EVERYONE in the class. No one was left out. Yes, it’s beautiful to celebrate your Love with that special person in your life. But I think February is an opportunity to express Love for everyone. What the world needs now is love sweet love. Who was this Saint Valentine that started all of this? 

“He was the patron saint of lovers, epileptics, and beekeepers. By some accounts, St. Valentine was a Roman priest and physician. Valentine’s Day as a lovers’ festival dates at least from the 14th century.” –Wikipedia

Valentine’s Day has been going on for over 600 years. Now that’s a fun fact. Wow! February is the opportune time to reflect on relationships. And you may find yourself doing that whether you’re in a relationship or not. We can all agree that it’s always helpful to learn and grow as a person. Because others are your mirror. You, too, learn from others. People mirror back parts of self you may not be consciously aware of. Others bring light to the best parts of you. And the parts of self that need healing or improvement. The more work you do on yourself, the BETTER partner you can be. This will benefit current or future significant others and friends, colleagues, and family. 

I’m still learning and growing myself. But I’ve learned a few things about myself recently and how I deal with relationships. 

I can very quickly feel suffocated in relationships. I feel more and more suffocated until I lash out in frustration. This only leads to hurting my partner’s feelings. You can imagine how that goes over when they’re just trying to love me and spend time with me, right?! It’s a PATTERN I’ve lived with my whole life. I long for relationships, but simultaneously feel frustrated in them! It’s the come close to me so I can push you away. Don’t get in my space. And then when I have too much space. I miss him.    

We all have our patterns in relationships. The trick is to understand them and start working WITH them and not AGAINST them.  

I created the Kindred Spirits report to help myself work through relationship patterns. I want to share it with you. This report helps you UNDERSTAND how your unique astrology affects your relationships. This includes your wants, your needs, and your desires.

For instance, I’ve learned through my report that I require independence to be happy. BINGO! I’ve had so much conflict in my past because of my fierce independence. I now know this is part of who I am. Now I can build strategies to work with it. Because it’s who I am. And resisting it doesn’t work for me. 

I’ve learned to build in my own personal time before I burst. My me time is a NEED not a want. I can also communicate with my partner about my expectations. That’s all it takes. No more building up frustrations and hurting feelings. I’ve learned that you have to teach people how to treat you. Just because someone loves you doesn’t mean they know what you want or need. They’re not mind readers. We, too, can say this about our children and friends. Let others know what you need to be happy. 

Here’s what else I’ve learned: my Third House Cusp is in Virgo. Because I expect so much of myself, I expect a high degree of PERFECTION in my partner. I always have and now I know why. I can easily get frustrated over the little things. Like I am not supposed to make mistakes. I’m supposed to be perfect. Yet, I don’t know anyone who is perfect because we are human beings. And you have blinds spots. You can’t see the nose on your face. But everyone else can see it. That’s why you need to love yourself MORE than the need to be perfect and keep a healthy sense of humor because life is too short to sweat the small stuff. 

Through the Kindred Spirits report, I understand my shortcomings. It’s my desire for perfection. Every time something little isn’t up to my standards. I take a step back. I ask myself: is it really important? Or is it my need for control? And my insatiable appetite for perfection. Will this matter to me in six-months from now? If not, then it doesn’t really matter. See where I am going with this? 

These are just two examples of what I learned. I learned so much. But, if you can learn just one thing from your Kindred Spirits Report. I guarantee your relationships will be better off because self-knowledge is POWER. The more you understand yourself and what you need to be happy. The more available you will be for the people in your life. This is good news. 

If you’re looking for more insight, I also offer the Synastry Report that will compare your chart with your partner’s. You will learn how both of your charts work together. You’ll see where your charts may clash. And, it will tell you where you may find potential conflict. It’s another way of understanding your relationship astrology because LOVE is written in the stars. 

I want to empower you to build the best relationships possible. And it all starts with LOVING you. 

My gifts to achieve the relationships you deserve are the Kindred Spirits report and the Synastry report. I’ve even created a Relationship Bundle to save $5.00 when you order both reports. 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Love,

Kelley
XX

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are you ready for love?

The holidays are fast approaching. I’m hearing Christmas songs and seeing black Friday ads. My email is being flooded with sales for Thanksgiving tableware. Recipes for tasty new side dishes are everywhere. What’s not to love, right? 

Well, for some, there’s a lot not to love.  

The holidays often represent disappointment. It’s another trip around the sun where you didn’t find your soulmate. There will be questions from family about when you’ll be bringing someone home. There will holiday parties to attend solo. After a wonderful celebration, you come home to a house that may feel empty.  

Well, as alone as you may FEEL. I promise you that you are NOT ALONE! In fact, the word alone means All~One. In truth, we have all been there at some point in our life. I’ve certainly been there myself. Know that you are loved and appreciated. Know that you’ve got a cheering section bigger than you know. And, that everyone wants to see you happy and prosperous – especially finding love!

Let’s be real. I’m not talking about the Hallmark card love. I’m talking about the stability of having a life partner. You may feel that you’ve exhausted your efforts trying to find someone. You might even think a soulmate doesn’t exist for you. They do! 

I genuinely believe that we all have soulmates out there just waiting to be found. The question is…are you ready? Ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you hate any of your exes?
  • Do you still get mad or sad about a breakup?
  • Are you jealous of an ex’s new partner?
  • Do you have trouble being truly happy for any exes’ successes since you’ve split?

Did you answer yes to any of those questions? Then, you have more work to do. 

Here’s what I want for you to do. For any relationship you’re still dealing with:

  • Write down three GOOD things that came out of it.
  • Write down three ways you have become a better person because of the relationship…or even because of the breakup.
  • Write down three reasons why YOU ARE OK alone.

Once you have your list, you’ll want to read through it every night. Next, picture what type of soulmate you want. Don’t focus on physical traits. Focus on mental and spiritual qualities. Focus on kindness, patience, and energy level.  

Remember the Law of Attraction! You create your own life! So why not start by creating the life you want in your head. Focus on it. Feel how you want your life to be. And please, KNOW that you deserve it! Because you do! Think about how your life will change and for the better. And I promise you IT WILL! It may not be tomorrow. It may not be before the holidays. 

Before you know it, though, you will have brought precisely the kind of energy into your life that you BELIEVE you deserve. It comes down to what you are ready to receive. And are you good at receiving? 

I have an amazing new report called the Kindred Spirits Report. This report provides an in-depth insight into your relationship patterns. And offers insights into how to meet your needs in intimate unions.  Remember the biggest relationship your having is with yourself. Are you kind and generous with you? Be your own best friend. Be your own soul mate.  Give to you the love that you want from another. When you do this, you are aligning yourself with one who can give you the LOVE that you deserve.

Once you’ve found a potential match. Consider getting a Synastry Relationship Report. This report compares your astrology with your partner’s. It will show you where you’re best aligned. And where you may have some challenges one day. There’s no better way to guide your relationship through the bumpy road of life. 

“Kindred spirits are not so scarce as I used to think. It’s splendid to find out that there are so many of them in the world.” 
– L M Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables

All My Love,

Kelley
XOXO

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Or, my Kindred Spirits Report.

Aries Full Moon Love, Passion & Partnership

The Aries Full Moon on October 5 will light your fire. This is an action packed Moon. Mars rules the Aries Moon. He fuels whatever he touches. Mars brings action and energy. He ignites your passion and desire. He is coupled with his divine lover Venus in Virgo. This is the marriage of your male and female energy. This Full Moon will bring to light relationship issues.

Powerful Pluto is challenging both lights (the Sun and the Moon). Pluto rules the Sub Rosa element. What is hidden, secret and taboo. You are being asked to own your power and transform your relationships. The Martian energies are ripe. That is anger, arguments and forcing issues vs. diplomacy. Watch out for projecting onto other people your own shadow and subconscious behavior. There is no evil. Evil is e-veiled “energy veiled.” It is undeveloped aspects of yourself begging for development. These undeveloped aspects are negative behavior such as jealousy, guilt and shame. Be assertive not aggressive. You may feel overwhelmed by emotions. Do not react, step back, breathe and count to ten. Before taking action. Once the Jeannie is out you cannot get her back in the bottle.

The Sun is in Libra. Libra rules balance, fairness and justice. Libra is about love, beauty and relationships. We can only be out of balance for so long before something breaks down. Where do you need more balance? Are you receiving from your relationships? Do you need to take a time out from world events? Do what gives you balance. Slow down and rest. Saturn is challenging both Mars and Venus.  You are to work smarter and not harder. Focus your attention on how you can be more efficient and effective. Focus on your success. Make each day count. In the northern hemisphere. We are in the fall season. This is the harvest time of the year. What we have planted this year will bear fruit in the fall. What are you harvesting in your life and relationships? Are you receiving? Say this aloud and daily, “My Intention is to receive.”

This is an intense Full Moon. The shadow side of Libra is superficial relating. When you deny your truth to keep the peace, this destroys love. When you share the truth, your relationships grow deeper and stronger.  Indecision too can create problems. It is a lack of leadership.  Staying on the surface and not diving deep into the issues may backfire on you. Anger is an ally. It helps you to set boundaries and take right action. Pluto and Uranus are activating both Moons in October. They have been changing our lives for almost ten years.

This is the “Hunters Moon.” The Native Americans used it for hunting to prepare for winter. Libra is the peacemaker. However, when you suppress your needs to keep the peace. This will kill your passion. You need passion to be successful in life and relationships. It is your birthright to be a success.  The Aries Full Moon message is to be brave. Be a hunter. Go after what your heart desires. Own your power. Own both your light and shadow. Love yourself. You cannot receive love from others until you love you. Without you, we have nothing to discuss. Until next time, be brave, meditate, eat well, exercise and laugh a lot!

 

Blessings and Abundance,

Kelley Rosano

 

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October Astrological Events

Mars trine Pluto October 1

Venus trine Pluto October 3

Venus conjunct Mars in Virgo October 5

Aries Full Moon October 5

Sun conjunct Mercury October 8

Sun square Pluto October 9

Jupiter enters Scorpio October 10

Mars T-square Saturn & Chiron October 11–25

Venus enters Libra October 14

Sun sextile Saturn October 16

Mercury enters Scorpio October 17

Libra New Moon October 19

Mars enters Libra October 22

Sun enters Scorpio October 23

Sun conjunct Jupiter October 26

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Leo New Moon | Roar Like A Lion

Leo New moonThe Leo New Moon on August 2 is reminding you that you are the Star of your life. Leo’s ruling planet is the Sun. The Sun is the center of the universe. The Sun is the heart and soul of astrology. The Sun is what drives the entire natal birth chart. You are the Sun center of your life. You matter. You count. You have come to Earth to share your love and light. Your talent, gifts and abilities shine the brightest when you live from your heart.

 

 

 

“We are stardust. We are golden. And we’ve got to get ourselves back to the garden.”

— Joni Mitchell

 

Leo rules the heart or the heart can rule Leo. In other words, like the Sun, Leos must shine their love/light on everyone and not just the object of their affection. Leo rules the fifth house in astrology. This is the part of life where you are creative, outgoing and self-confident. Leos govern creative self-expression, romance, sports and children. You can procreate a project, art, a business and a hobby. Whatever you pour your love and creativity into is an offspring. We can create new ideas, inventions and opportunities from our mind.

Creating a business is the same as giving birth. The business is your baby. We have to let the baby crawl before it can walk. The child must walk before s/he learns to run or ride a bike. Many folks try to get more out of their new baby (business) before it is ready to produce.  It is unwise to demand too much of yourself and your baby (business).  Before it has had the proper amount of time and opportunity to grow, develop and flourish.

 

  • What are you creating?
  • What have you come to be?
  • What qualities have you come to share?

 

Wherever Leo lands in your natal birth chart is where you need to focus your Sun sign positive traits. In other words, let you light shine, be bold and creative. Be the best version of your Sun sign. Allow your creative self-expression to blossom and grow in the area and affairs of the house that Leo rules in your chart.

The best part of Leo is the inner child. You are to nourish and protect our childlike innocence. You are to be open to new ideas and fresh perspectives. Be curious about life. Be engaged in the magic of the moment. Be in your heart.

 

Leo New Moon

” What makes a king out of a slave? Courage! What makes the flag on the mast to wave? Courage! What makes the elephant charge his tusk in the misty mist, or the dusky dusk? What makes the muskrat guard his musk? Courage! What makes the sphinx the seventh wonder? Courage! What makes the dawn come up like thunder? Courage! What makes the Hottentot so hot? What puts the “ape” in apricot? What have they got that I ain’t got? Courage! ” — Cowardly Lion, Wizard of Oz

Love and Peace,

Kelley Rosano

 

 

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August Astrological Events

Sun trine Saturn August 1

Mars enters Sagittarius August 2

Leo New Moon August 2

Venus enters Virgo August 5

Mercury squares Saturn August 6

Mercury opposes Neptune August 7

Saturn moves direct August 13

Venus square Saturn August 13

Venus opposes Neptune August 14

Sun trine Uranus August 16

Aquarius Full Moon August 18

Sun moves into Virgo August 22

Mars conjunct Saturn August 24

Mars square Neptune August 26

Venus conjunct Jupiter August 27

Mercury conjunct Venus August 29

Venus enters Libra August 29

Mercury retrograde August 30

Mercury direct September 21

 

 

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